November 3-9, 2019

We welcome you to worship with us. Our Sunday Fellowship time begins at 9:00 a.m. Worship begins at 9:30 a.m.

We have a Bible hour for all ages at 10:45.

Our AWANA and Youth Group meets  Sunday from 1:30-3:00 September-April with holiday breaks.

We have Faith Connections on Wednesday evening at 6:30 when we gather for prayer and then have a short Scripture study together. This week we will study Hebrews 11:1-16 “Living By Faith”

If you have ministry questions please contact our Administrative Assistant, Rochelle, at ministriesatfbc@gmail.com

All items for the bulletin must be received by Wednesday at noon to be included in this week’s bulletin.

Christmas Choir Church Members interested in singing in our Christmas Choir presentation on Dec 15th please see Tim or Lori. Rehearsals will be from 6:00 – 6:30 every Wednesday and dress rehearsal on Saturday, December 14th.

Ladies of Faith November 5th 6:00 p.m. Please prepare Chapters 11 and 12 of Lies Women Believe for our time  together at Bethany’s home, 1640 W. Davenport Street Apartment 2.

Annual Business November 10th 11:00 a.m. The 2020 proposed Budget is posted in preparation to vote or make changes during our annual meeting.

Men of Faith November 16th 7:00-9:00 a.m. The men will meet in the lower level for breakfast, Bible Study, and prayer. Please prepare Chapter 8 of Biblical Leadership.

Thank you! Thank you for the taco bar, kind words and gifts for pastor appreciation month. Your love for Jesus Christ, His Word and each other encourages us all year long! Pastor Mark, Lori and Luke

Marriage Banquet Committee  Are you interested in serving on a committee to plan our annual  marriage banquet for February? If so, please see Rochelle to plan for a meeting soon. Thank you!

Photo Deadline This is the last week to update your photo for the 2020 directory. Please email your new photo to Rochelle at ministrieatfbc@gamil.com

Marriage Minute 11-3-19 “How To Repair Your Marriage”.   By Ted Lowe

Most couples fight. And, many spouses wish they could take back something they said that caused the argument to spin out of control. If this sounds familiar, what if you and your mate could develop a habit that would keep arguments from becoming destructive?

The following exercise may not seem fun, but I promise it will be helpful.

I invite you to think about the last fight you had with your mate. At what point did things quickly go from bad to worse? Was it when one of you used sarcasm? Was it when you or your spouse got defensive? When you raised your voice? How about when you said the one thing you swore you would never say again? Or, how about when your spouse raised their voice and said the one thing they promised they would never say again?

Rewind your memory to the moment right before the argument quickly became unproductive. Now imagine you had a secret weapon you could use in that moment to keep negativity from spinning out of control. Does this sound too good to be true? It’s not.

John Gottman, one of the foremost researchers on marriage, says happy couples have a secret weapon they use during arguments called “repair attempts.” He defines a repair attempt as “any statement or action—silly or otherwise—that prevents negativity from escalating out of control.” A repair attempt can be as simple as saying to your spouse, “Let’s take a break.” Or, “We are on the same team.” Or, “Could you say that more gently?” A repair attempt can also be a goofy smile or funny face.

But the magic isn’t in a phrase or funny face; the magic happens when two people agree on a repair attempt, then use it when the timing is right. But most of all, it works when each spouse gives and receives repair attempts for what they are: “I am attempting to repair our relationship because I love you, because I love us.” Solomon suggested the same thing in Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (NIV)

So, here’s one little, big thing to do today to improve your marriage: Talk with your spouse about what your repair attempt needs to be. Pretty easy. You don’t have to have a fight today to test it out. But, the next time you are about to get into a fight, I invite you to use your repair attempt with your mate, then let it do its magic. It may not feel like magic in the moment, and it might be hard to say or receive. But you will be glad you did . . . eventually. Then, come back and share what happened with us.  What repair attempt do you–or would you like to–use in your marriage?


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